This post was definitely going back in time for me. I remember the “pulsating fire of ovulation” in my mid-twenties as my nerves feeling like I was on fire. I was doing the True Love Waits thing, too, and dating a marine…
but at 33 I ended up date raped and now my whole life is an emotional hellscape. Prior to that happening I was looking forward to being married, and sex, I was comfortable in my skin, but now I haven’t had sex with anyone I truly wanted to… only to try and cover up a bad memory and a hole in my heart. Sex without emotional safety is hell, so definitely wait until you’re with a guy you truly love and would die for
I had a blast dating when I was a virgin, even into my early 30s. We could part ways amicably and still be friends.
Don’t ever be alone with a guy who’s been recently divorced, would be my biggest piece of advice; but also, try not to let other people address you as “the virgin” it puts you on a pedestal and then nobody knows how to treat you if something happens.
It sucks. I loved the relationships I had while waiting and learned a ton from all those men. I haven’t enjoyed a single one since getting pushed into the sexual pool… not one.
I don’t regret waiting, I regret being alone with the wrong guy. I hope you have a better ending than I did
This post was definitely going back in time for me. I remember the “pulsating fire of ovulation” in my mid-twenties as my nerves feeling like I was on fire. I was doing the True Love Waits thing, too, and dating a marine…
but at 33 I ended up date raped and now my whole life is an emotional hellscape. Prior to that happening I was looking forward to being married, and sex, I was comfortable in my skin, but now I haven’t had sex with anyone I truly wanted to… only to try and cover up a bad memory and a hole in my heart. Sex without emotional safety is hell, so definitely wait until you’re with a guy you truly love and would die for
I had a blast dating when I was a virgin, even into my early 30s. We could part ways amicably and still be friends.
Don’t ever be alone with a guy who’s been recently divorced, would be my biggest piece of advice; but also, try not to let other people address you as “the virgin” it puts you on a pedestal and then nobody knows how to treat you if something happens.
It sucks. I loved the relationships I had while waiting and learned a ton from all those men. I haven’t enjoyed a single one since getting pushed into the sexual pool… not one.
I don’t regret waiting, I regret being alone with the wrong guy. I hope you have a better ending than I did
I'm so sorry that you went through that, that's so awful. Thank you for commenting, reading, and sharing your insights.
Beautiful, sincere and vulnerable. I hope other women in similar situation like yours get to see it and find your way.
❤️🥹 incredible to be so attuned and awake to yourself